The scene: You're coming home at the end of the long work day, exhausted, and want nothing more than to put on your favorite sweatpants and eat cereal out of the box with your bare hands. Except, wait, not really — you also want to have sex. But, like, that can't possibly happen — not with the kids, not with work stress, and certainly not with the fact that your body feels like the zombified version of its former self. There are ways to get turned on and feel sexy, even when everything around you seems to indicate that zero sex is going to happen. There is no sex switch in your body that can make you go from work mode to sex mode, unless you are a robot, in which case, hi, cool. Fleming calls this 'keeping your pilot light on. It then makes it a lot easier to get into the mood — if you already consider yourself sexy, why wouldn't you feel ready to go at a moment's notice? There are a myriad of ways to do that, because feeling sexy is subjective.
You send your partner a evocative text right when you acquire home, put on your sexiest lingerie set, and light a few candles. In fact, in relationships where one partner has a higher sex drivethis may come about often. Jess O'Reillytells Bustle. Although don't sulk or take the rejection personally — this bidding make both of you air bad. Do you lash absent at your partner?