January 12, Share Thirty-seven minutes after sitting down to lunch, Francesca and I hugged goodbye in a strip-mall parking lot. We were both fairly certain, I think, that we would not be seeing each other again. As I drove home, the distant mountains laid out like a postcard I might have mailed back to Brooklyn, I was beset by an acute and familiar emptiness: an echo, I suddenly realized, of my many years of online dating, and of the disappointment that arises when the person on whom you had pinned your hopes for the future turns out to be a total mismatch. But I saw now that I would have to start that dispiriting process over again, this time in search not of love but of friendship—and at the age of 40, no less, a decidedly late time in life to be seeking new soulmates. Even more important, young adulthood is a time when many of us have time. The average American spends just 41 minutes a day socializing, but Jeffrey A. Hall, a communication-studies professor at the University of Kansas, estimates that it typically takes more than hours, ideally over six weeks, for a stranger to grow into a close friend. Read: How to make friends, according to science Over the course of nearly two decades in New York, I had prided myself on resisting this pull away from platonic love.
All the same the unemployment rate dropped en route for 3. Michelle Holder is head and CEO of the Washington Center for Equitable Growth after that a longtime scholar of the unique position of women of color in the American labor force. The following is an edited transcript of their banter. Kai Ryssdal: So, the jobs report comes out last Friday, hot off the presses by